Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it’s a major, known issue, or you’re just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn’t mean the end. And it doesn’t mean things won’t get back to good.

The bad news? When you’re the one who’s actually in the middle of a malfunctioning twosome, it’s really hard to see that things will get better. When that’s the case, it can be easy to lose your head. I mean, we’re only human. We’re weird animals. And when something that is dear to us, like a love, is threatened, we’ll do some crazy things in the name of saving it.

I understand, I really do, because I’ve been there. If you want proof, keep reading for a sampling of three of the most common mistakes couples make to put their relationship back on track. Oh, and for the record, I didn’t have a baby.

Have a Baby

There is just so much wrong with this it’s hard to know where to start. That it even needs to be mentioned is just sad. It happens though, too often. People get scared and think that an addition to the family will bring them closer together as a couple, even if that means tricking their partner into an “accidental” pregnancy. It will do no such thing; and using an innocent to try to patch your relationship? Abhorrent!

Invade your partner’s privacy

So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he’s nowhere to be found. You’re thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You’re delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.

Checking a lover’s email, Facebook, text messages…all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can’t use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you’re just a snoop. Lose/Lose.

Move in with each other

When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let’s face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It’s an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.

While the two of you may labor under the illusion of romance and the temporary diversion can be a thrill, in the long term your problems will still be there. Only now, you’re sharing them with a lease or a mortgage on top of everything else. Talk about complicating things!

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