When we think about, or talk about our goals, we often use the word “should” when referring to a specific action which we must take in order to achieve out goals. Most of us think that “should” is just an innocent word that helps us get out of boring conversations and confrontations regarding our bad habits. Little do we realize that the word “should” poisons our speech and ambitions to make money fast by inferring that what we are doing is not good enough, and that we would be better off doing something else.
What is it that we are really telling ourselves when we say that we “should” do something?
1. You have an obligation to which you are not looking forward. Notice how we usually do not talk about how we “should” do things that we are looking forward to doing? We never say that we “should” have at least three cookies. Rather, we just eat three or more cookies. However, if we feel obligated to eat healthy, it turns into a “should”. However, if making cookies for a bake sale is an obligation, then it turns into a “should”. Conversely, if making cookies is the most fun experience in the world for you (for whatever reason), it would be easy for you to just make cookies. The same holds true for taking steps to make money fast. This is why it is important that you do something which you enjoy. If you enjoy what you are doing, the steps which you will need to take to accomplish your goals will be a fun experience, and not a “should”.
2. One the on hand you have almost no motivation to do something, and on the other hand, you have the perfect excuse as to why you cannot do it. You tell yourself that you “should”, which is most commonly followed by some excuse which you have convinced yourself is rational. So the good news here is that you know what you need to do, however, you have already determined that you are not going to do it. Furthermore, in your mind the reason why you are not going to do it is valid. Envision how absolutely foolish a student would look telling their professor that they knew that they should have handed in their paper on time, however, a friend invited them on an all expense paid trip to the Super Bowl last minute, so they had no time to finish the paper. This is just an excuse, and the student would be penalized.
3. You know exactly what you need to do to make things better, but you are procrastinating. For all of you out there who “should” stop smoking, who “should” lose weight, or who “should” go back to school, you know exactly what you need to do to live longer, feel better, advance in life, and improve your career. However, you are hiding behind “should” as your lame excuse not to take action. Of course, being a spectator on the sidelines is much easier than going after the ball, but spectators do not win ball games, players do.
If you have a long list of “should’s” and a short list of “goals”, take a piece of paper, write down the which of the “should’s” you need to take action on to accomplish your goals, and take action. If your goal is to make money fast, and one of your “should’s” is to create a website, then create a website ASAP, and stop letting day on which money can be made, go to waste. You will never get those days back. They are now a part of history.
Make a conscious decision to turn your “should’s” into definite “will’s” or “will not’s.” The word “should”, strips you of power and motivation. Conversely, the word “will” gives you the power and resolve to get things done. With fewer “should’s” in your vocabulary, you will find yourself flying down the road to accomplishment.